WOMEN is there a secret trick to giving you guys an orgasm?
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I get my gf every once in a while but its totally random, what are some tips, what works for you.
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Okay, here are a few secrets most guys don't know but should:
1) We have to be relaxed, warm and comfortable. If that means doing it under the covers, do it! Even if you're going down on her and you feel like you're smothering.
2) We have to be in a good place with you. Meaning we have to be happy with you, that you care about the relationship and you're committed to us at least a little (even for a one-night stand)! That's very important--as important as how you look or how you act! If you just had an argument with us we're not going to be as expressive or uninhibited, meaning it's harder to have an orgasm.
3) You have to be willing to do anything if you want us to come. That means cunnilingus (licking our vulva) if necessary. That doesn't mean you HAVE to do all of that but we just need to know you're WILLING to. Some stuff is extra credit. For example, some girls like a finger in their bottom at just the right moment. (I know, as a guy you're probably somewhere between "eeeeew" and "woo hoo!" on that one.) But don't be doing that without warning us and finding out if we're into that first! Some girls HATE that. (But we like that your'e willing to do it if necessary.)
4) Be gentle! Be gentle! Did I mention be gentle! Those porno movies with the guy slapping the girl or chewing her nipples or doing her so hard her head jerks up and down--that's just the movies. We don't like that stuff! (Well, usually anyways.) If we DO want it rougher we'll tell you.
5) Encourage us tell you how to touch us and don't get in a snit if we correct you, like, 10 times or 20 times. It takes awhle to learn how to touch us just right and we reaaaaaaaly appreciate it that you want to know how to do it right! We might even demonstrate for you (which a lot of you guys like, right? To see us masturbate?) If we do, PAY ATTENTION, don't just drool. (But you can drool a little cause we know it makes you hot to watch).
6) Take time. Don't rush us. Don't EXPECT that we're going to come--we might not want to--don''t keep pushing for it if it isn't working out. That just stresses us out. But do always let us come first. Do foreplay with us until we invite you to penetrate. Don't just assume. All of this is to get us to relax. THat's important.
7) Make us come the way we like to come. Not every girl can come with a penis in her vagina. That's just the way we are. A lot of us prefer to come manually or orally, or that may be the ONLY way we can come. SOme of us even like to make ourselves come with our hands while you make love to us other ways.
8) Sometimes you need to just keep rubbing or stroking or whatever the same exact way until we climax. Once you sense you're in a good groove, just keep doing that same thing over and over until you get some sign from us that we want a change. Don't keep vary it on your own just to keep things interesting--we're making our final approach to landing here! We don't want any changes!
9) Don't EVER tease us about the sounds we make. Those sounds are often completely unconscious and they give you some EXCELLENT clues about how well your'e doing when we're at the pont where we can't or don't want to talk. Be aware of all the sounds like breathing, sighing, gasping, crying out, moaning, etc. An honest woman won't do those things just to stroke YOUR ego, but will allow you to hear them so you hav esome feedback.
And some really basic stuff:
10) Be clean. Be shaven (you give us beard rash if you're too bristly) or try not to brush your stubble on our skin too much. It's distracting and it makes our skin red and sore. Brush your teeth, chew gum and/or rinse with mouthwash. God's sake don't smoke if you don't have to. Nothing stops a good encounter faster than a guy with bad breath sticking his tongue in your mouth.
11) Be nice to us. Care about us. That means having a conversation, not just talking about yourself all night and then hopping in the sack expecting us to have delirious multiple orgasms. Take a lot of time to get to know us. Talk to us--explore what we think, what's important to us, who we are. And open up about yourself--your feelings--some. I know, BOOOORING. But if you really want to drive a girl over the edge in bed, you need to do this.
12) Afterwards let us know how much you liked it when we came, how much you appreciated us showing you how to touch us, etc. That sets us up for a good experience the next time and shows that your'e still communicating with us, still care about us and didn't want us just for sex.
Not all of this stuff applies to every woman, but most of it applies to most women. I know you probably know a lot of this stuff, but I hope there are a few things in there that help. Good luck!
Okay, here are a few secrets most guys don't know but should:
1) We have to be relaxed, warm and comfortable. If that means doing it under the covers, do it! Even if you're going down on her and you feel like you're smothering.
2) We have to be in a good place with you. Meaning we have to be happy with you, that you care about the relationship and you're committed to us at least a little (even for a one-night stand)! That's very important--as important as how you look or how you act! If you just had an argument with us we're not going to be as expressive or uninhibited, meaning it's harder to have an orgasm.
3) You have to be willing to do anything if you want us to come. That means cunnilingus (licking our vulva) if necessary. That doesn't mean you HAVE to do all of that but we just need to know you're WILLING to. Some stuff is extra credit. For example, some girls like a finger in their bottom at just the right moment. (I know, as a guy you're probably somewhere between "eeeeew" and "woo hoo!" on that one.) But don't be doing that without warning us and finding out if we're into that first! Some girls HATE that. (But we like that your'e willing to do it if necessary.)
4) Be gentle! Be gentle! Did I mention be gentle! Those porno movies with the guy slapping the girl or chewing her nipples or doing her so hard her head jerks up and down--that's just the movies. We don't like that stuff! (Well, usually anyways.) If we DO want it rougher we'll tell you.
5) Encourage us tell you how to touch us and don't get in a snit if we correct you, like, 10 times or 20 times. It takes awhle to learn how to touch us just right and we reaaaaaaaly appreciate it that you want to know how to do it right! We might even demonstrate for you (which a lot of you guys like, right? To see us masturbate?) If we do, PAY ATTENTION, don't just drool. (But you can drool a little cause we know it makes you hot to watch).
6) Take time. Don't rush us. Don't EXPECT that we're going to come--we might not want to--don''t keep pushing for it if it isn't working out. That just stresses us out. But do always let us come first. Do foreplay with us until we invite you to penetrate. Don't just assume. All of this is to get us to relax. THat's important.
7) Make us come the way we like to come. Not every girl can come with a penis in her vagina. That's just the way we are. A lot of us prefer to come manually or orally, or that may be the ONLY way we can come. SOme of us even like to make ourselves come with our hands while you make love to us other ways.
8) Sometimes you need to just keep rubbing or stroking or whatever the same exact way until we climax. Once you sense you're in a good groove, just keep doing that same thing over and over until you get some sign from us that we want a change. Don't keep vary it on your own just to keep things interesting--we're making our final approach to landing here! We don't want any changes!
9) Don't EVER tease us about the sounds we make. Those sounds are often completely unconscious and they give you some EXCELLENT clues about how well your'e doing when we're at the pont where we can't or don't want to talk. Be aware of all the sounds like breathing, sighing, gasping, crying out, moaning, etc. An honest woman won't do those things just to stroke YOUR ego, but will allow you to hear them so you hav esome feedback.
And some really basic stuff:
10) Be clean. Be shaven (you give us beard rash if you're too bristly) or try not to brush your stubble on our skin too much. It's distracting and it makes our skin red and sore. Brush your teeth, chew gum and/or rinse with mouthwash. God's sake don't smoke if you don't have to. Nothing stops a good encounter faster than a guy with bad breath sticking his tongue in your mouth.
11) Be nice to us. Care about us. That means having a conversation, not just talking about yourself all night and then hopping in the sack expecting us to have delirious multiple orgasms. Take a lot of time to get to know us. Talk to us--explore what we think, what's important to us, who we are. And open up about yourself--your feelings--some. I know, BOOOORING. But if you really want to drive a girl over the edge in bed, you need to do this.
12) Afterwards let us know how much you liked it when we came, how much you appreciated us showing you how to touch us, etc. That sets us up for a good experience the next time and shows that your'e still communicating with us, still care about us and didn't want us just for sex.
Not all of this stuff applies to every woman, but most of it applies to most women. I know you probably know a lot of this stuff, but I hope there are a few things in there that help. Good luck!
Would you leave the foreskin on your baby boy?
Q. Why do people have the foreskin removed?
And would you do it, and why?
And would you do it, and why?
Answer
No, my boys are not circumcised. I've never even seen a circumcised penis before.
We live in the UK and it's not a common procedure here, last year only around 3% of under 15s were circumcised and barely any of that 3% were infants.
It's not any more clean to have it done, it's no different to cleaning a fingertip or your nose - soap on the sponge or flannel, lather up the area, rinse. The foreskin doesn't need any particular extra care or attention and doesn't take any extra time to clean. It doesn't affect sex and it doesn't make the child/man prone to infection or irritation. It doesn't protect against STDs. Getting it done so they "look like daddy" is pathetic, frankly. My sons' daddy has a beard and a tattoo - shall I get my sons those too so they look like daddy!? And it's prettier to have it cut? Have you ever seen an adult penis? They're not known for their beauty and cutting bits off makes zero difference.
Circumcision isn't commonly done here because the risks and side effects are too great for no obvious benefit. Older males who were circumcised earlier in life tend to have loss of sensitivity due to continual exposure of the glans, this can lead to the skin hardening and in some cases makes it painful if not impossible to maintain an erection. Circumcised men are also actually more prone to UTIs than uncircumcised men. In uncircumcised men the head of the penis and the urethra opening are protected by the foreskin and it's lubrication, in circumcised men this is removed and as the urethra opening is constantly exposed bacteria can gain access quite easily, it can also become irritated due to chemicals in the laundry process. Circumcise men tend to be at greater risk or irritation/dryness during sex or masturbation too, just like the vagina releases lubrication to ease intercourse, so does the tissue in the foreskin of the penis, the foreskin naturally pulls back during sex and this lubrication aids the process. My partner is not cut and he has never given me an infection either.
The foreskin is there for a reason and all the arguments about hygiene, etc are proved invalid simply by looking at countries like this one where the procedure isn't routine - our men do just fine 100% intact.
No, my boys are not circumcised. I've never even seen a circumcised penis before.
We live in the UK and it's not a common procedure here, last year only around 3% of under 15s were circumcised and barely any of that 3% were infants.
It's not any more clean to have it done, it's no different to cleaning a fingertip or your nose - soap on the sponge or flannel, lather up the area, rinse. The foreskin doesn't need any particular extra care or attention and doesn't take any extra time to clean. It doesn't affect sex and it doesn't make the child/man prone to infection or irritation. It doesn't protect against STDs. Getting it done so they "look like daddy" is pathetic, frankly. My sons' daddy has a beard and a tattoo - shall I get my sons those too so they look like daddy!? And it's prettier to have it cut? Have you ever seen an adult penis? They're not known for their beauty and cutting bits off makes zero difference.
Circumcision isn't commonly done here because the risks and side effects are too great for no obvious benefit. Older males who were circumcised earlier in life tend to have loss of sensitivity due to continual exposure of the glans, this can lead to the skin hardening and in some cases makes it painful if not impossible to maintain an erection. Circumcised men are also actually more prone to UTIs than uncircumcised men. In uncircumcised men the head of the penis and the urethra opening are protected by the foreskin and it's lubrication, in circumcised men this is removed and as the urethra opening is constantly exposed bacteria can gain access quite easily, it can also become irritated due to chemicals in the laundry process. Circumcise men tend to be at greater risk or irritation/dryness during sex or masturbation too, just like the vagina releases lubrication to ease intercourse, so does the tissue in the foreskin of the penis, the foreskin naturally pulls back during sex and this lubrication aids the process. My partner is not cut and he has never given me an infection either.
The foreskin is there for a reason and all the arguments about hygiene, etc are proved invalid simply by looking at countries like this one where the procedure isn't routine - our men do just fine 100% intact.
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